Life changes when your family expands. This is especially true when you have newborns or young children, who require your care and attention 24/7. As you and your spouse place all your energy on your little ones, more often than not, your relationship as a couple gets put on the backburner. Even as you get immersed in the world of parenting, it is also imperative that you carve out time to reconnect as partners. This is where allocating dedicated date nights can come in handy.
Admittedly, a date night when you have young children in your life may look different from when there were just the two of you – when you could dress up, stay out as late as you want and paint the town red together. However, the time spent together sans children can be an essential kindle in refuelling the spark that made you fall in love with each other. In fact, date nights can be seen as a great investment in your relationship. It is often thought that couples who designate regular date nights tend to have tighter bonds, better communication and fewer conflicts.
Planning Your Date Night
When planning your date night, you’ll need to figure out a couple of thing, such as:
- When will it take place?
- Will you need to find a sitter?
- Do you have to prepare anything in advance? (either for your children or for your date)
- What kind of activities will you and your partner actually enjoy?
Knowing these things will help you plan your date in advance. However, in the event that something does come up, such as your child getting sick, or even one of you getting sick, make sure you have a backup, just in case.
Fun at Home
If budget or lack of childcare does not allow you to indulge in a night out in town, date night at home can also be a fun way to purposefully reconnect with your partner. A bonus is that you won’t face the stress of navigating traffic or being too far away from your little ones!
Here are some ideas of what you can do at home:
Plan a game night
Pick up a variety of games (some strategic, some funny, romantic, etc.) and bust out the games after the kids go to bed or during nap time! This is a really fun way to spark up some friendly competition and even conversation with one another!
Look at old photos together
Looking at childhood photos from before you knew each other or old photos of the two of you together will spark some interesting conversations and bring back fond memories.
Have a movie night
This is a classic and a great way to relax after the little ones go to bed. Make some popcorn (or whatever snack is your favourite), get cosy and start the movie.
If you’re an early bird, you could even start your morning by getting up before the kids to enjoy some coffee together while watching a movie. There’s nothing like a little snuggle time and movie to start your day!
Cook up a romantic meal
There’s a reason why the saying “The way to a person’s heart is through their stomach” is so popular. A great way to say “I love you” is with a romantic, home-made meal! Surprise your partner with a special meal. You could add in extra touches like strewing rose petals, putting on some nice perfume and dressing in their favourite outfit, and really turn it into a romantic affair.
Make cocktails or have a wine, cheese or chocolate tasting night
Have a cocktail night: try to recreate your favourites or experiment until you come up with a signature cocktail you can call your own. Or have some wine and cheese or chocolate. Wine goes great with cheese and chocolate, so you know you can’t go too wrong with either of these pairings.
Give each other massages
Being parents can be tough. A great way to add in some romance is by giving one another a massage! Not only does it feel nice to feel your partner’s touch, but it probably feels so relaxing to get a massage after a long day. Find a video on YouTube and try some new massage techniques, or go freestyle!
Take a bath together
This one will really kick up the romance a notch, but hey, that’s what you’re here for, right?
Be sure to pour a glass of wine or your favourite drink, add in some calm scented bubbles, and enjoy your warm bath with your partner!
Get outside and watch the sunset together
Depending on what time your kids go to bed, you might be able to catch a gorgeous sunset with your partner! There’s always something special and mesmerising about snuggling up with your partner and watching the sun go down together.